OptiquesJeff..the announcement I did not want to make

**ViolinCyndee** · 06-13-2013

I am starting a separate thread because of the importance of this announcement. I am devastated to tell you all that the chemo did not work. Jeff is on hospice in our home, and the focus will be on symptom management.

Though I was expecting this, it is different when it's really happening. So final and so heavy.. I cannot even process what is going on, and it's taking a toll on me as well. Jeff and I appreciate all of the love you have been showing us, more than we can express.. I am completely heartbroken...

**Scott Bails** · 06-13-2013

I don't have the words, Cyndee....

Please let Jeff know that I wish you both peace.

**Lopez** · 06-13-2013

This news breaks my heart. What a struggle. I am indeed saddened.

**Cats On Glue** · 06-13-2013

stay strong cyndee

**Dan Roth** · 06-13-2013

So sad to hear of this. I'm with Scott...wishing you both peace.

**sdavmor** · 06-13-2013

This is the worst possible news. I remember how supportive you were when Greg Amov was dying. Now it's time for me to reciprocate.

**wideopenears** · 06-13-2013

I'm sorry.

**WHORG** · 06-13-2013

Make him smile and love him.

**ViolinCyndee** · 06-13-2013

Thank you everyone.. just devastating..

**100423** · 06-13-2013

Cyndee, much love and peace to you and Jeff.

**VickiLynn** · 06-13-2013

Peace, love and strength to you both as you travel through this experience together.

**progeezer** · 06-13-2013

Originally Posted by WHORG

Make him smile and love him.

Good advice, Cyn. Just devastated here too, hon! This is a journey no one wants to make, and palliative care isn't just done by hospice staff. You're on the team too.

I love you guys and wish peace for both of you.

**ffroyd** · 06-13-2013

Cyndee and Jeff, I just want to say that I don't have very many really close friends and it is an honor to be yours. We have had some really fun times that I will cherish forever. I'm glad I had a chance to visit with you and some of our other friends last night. It was a beautiful peaceful evening and the frogs seemed to be singing just for him.

Love and peace to you both.

Floyd

**ViolinCyndee** · 06-13-2013

Originally Posted by ffroyd

Cyndee and Jeff, I just want to say that I don't have very many really close friends and it is an honor to be yours. We have had some really fun times that I will cherish forever. I'm glad I had a chance to visit with you and some of our other friends last night. It was a beautiful peaceful evening and the frogs seemed to be singing just for him.

Love and peace to you both.

Floyd

Awww.. Floyd.. so beautiful.. xoxo

**sdavmor** · 06-13-2013

You are a very classy and courageous woman, Cyndee. In the midst of disaster you are amazing me. Hold your head high. Much love to you and Jeff.

**NeonKnight** · 06-13-2013

So sad to hear this Cyndee. Jeff will be missed.

Good thoughts to you both, and I hope his next journey is easier then the crappy way this one turned out.

Been a rough few months around PE lately. First Ark and now Jeff. Godspeed.

**Amy** · 06-13-2013

Cyndee - my heart is heavy and I can't imagine how yours feels. I wish you and Jeff so much strength during this time. The courage and spirit of both of you has been incredible.
Much love, light, and peace to you both,

Amy

**ProgFamily** · 06-13-2013

Our thoughts are with you both.

**JKL2000** · 06-13-2013

Such sad news, Cyndee. Jeff is lucky in having you, that's for sure. I hope the coming time passes as easily as it possibly can.

Jed

**ViolinCyndee** · 06-13-2013

All of your support means to much to us... xoxo

**Duncan Glenday** · 06-13-2013

Please let Jeff know that Arhlene and I still have both of you in our thoughts and prayers. We continue to hope that you both manage to find peace in some way, and that Jeff is as comfortable as possible.

Originally Posted by WHORG

Make him smile and love him.

Sage advice. It will help you both.

**zombywoof** · 06-13-2013

Make sure you pass along to Jeff how much I appreciated how you and he (along with many others) made my friend Billy and I feel welcome at NEARfest. Stay strong, Cyndee, I honestly can say that I have no idea how you must be feeling right now. All I can say is that this really bums me out.

**ForeverAutumn** · 06-13-2013

Originally Posted by Scott Bails

I don't have the words, Cyndee....

Please let Jeff know that I wish you both peace.

I think that Scott sums things up for me too. I'm speechless. I wish that there was something that I could do or say to make this better for you both. Just know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you peace and love. My heart goes out to you.